Epic Linkage Saturday

Welcome to another edition of Epic Linkage Saturday. Per usual, I don't always agree with everything that everyone I link to says. Just some food for thought from the blogs I was able to browse this week. Please post your own links in the comments section and let everyone know what you've been reading and writing about this week.


Huge blog-reading fail this week.  I had a test to study for and didn't get to keep up with very many blogs.


Adult Adoptees


"Apparently I have lots to say lately..." by The Adopted Ones
So why can't we all just stop telling others that their truth is wrong?  Why does it matter to others if some adoptees feel a connection or validation to the [primal wound] theory?  Why does it matter if other adoptees feel no connection to the theory?  I think it is ego driven myself...."


"Adoptees Becoming Parents" by Von
"The birth of a first child of an adoptee, who has not experienced reunion, is the first time the adoptee is consciously aware of being with a biologically related relative.  This is usually a profound experience or at any rate one of great significance.  For non-adoptees there is no comparative experience' this one is quite unique to adoptees."


"It's 'just' a Name" at Assembling Self
"The name I was given when I was adopted, and the family it comes from, does not describe or tell me who I am.  It is not my genetic or historical background.  It belongs to others who want to pin it to me and erase where I came from."


"Yes, they're my family" by iAdoptee
"For me, nature does play a role even if the shared experiences are not there.  My natural mother and maternal biological relations hold a large part of my identity within their silent walls.  So yeah, they're my family too.  Even if they don't want me around."


"Adoptive/Natural Parents Who Disrespect Adoptees" at Joy's Division
"I mean there is a lot of that on the internets, the big difference for me is that these people are charged with the care of adoptees.  The fact that it would not be hard for any of their personal adoptees to come across their spiteful, aggressive, words doesn't seem to slow them down in the least."


"Conditional" at Insert Bad Movie Title Here
"I deserve unconditional love.  I believe that every person deserves to have people love them unconditionally. We deserve that from our parents at the very least, yet I Have at least three parents who seems to be going against this idea and a fourth I have yet to figure it out.  One can hope right?"


"Connections" by Ms. Marginalia
"It's Tuesday (well, Wednesday) and the weekend already seems so long ago.  I can't believe the remarkable change in my life over the past few months, and especially over the past few weeks.  It has to do with things largely out of my control, but I am fortunate that the changes mean positive things for me."


"It's easy to be a heretic" at Yoon's Blur
"My little rant for the day: It irks the snot out of me when folks conclude that adoptees and original mothers have no right to think critically about adoption."


"Adoption Vs. Biology" at a Taste of Kimchi
"No matter how hard you try one should never compare adoption with the birth of someone else's child."


First Mothers


"19th Birthday" at Heartslinked
"February 27 1992 at around 8:05pm, my first child was born.  She was the most beautiful person I had ever seen.  I could not fathom that she was my child, she was a miracle to say the least.  I loved her, I held her, I didn't want to let go ever."


Adoptive Mothers


"A grand social experiment" at Adoption Talk
"Our children did not sign on to be the subjects of a grand social experiment on the 'cross-pollination' of races and cultures.  They had no say in whether to be a 'bridge between the races."


Happy Saturday! Don't forget to post your links!


I try to include a lot of perspectives in the blogs I link to each week. Adult Adoptees, First Mothers, Adoptive Parents, Adoption Reform / Family Preservation blogs, Donor-Conceived Individuals, Foster Care Alumni and blogs about race, privilege, women's issues, and feminism. A category, or several, being absent from time to time doesn't mean I am not going to include that category in the future. It just means that I did not get to read as many blogs this week as I would have liked to.

Photo credit: Salvatore Vuono