Monday, July 30, 2012
When I explained to him my need for the quick visit, he responded with a puzzled look, "I didn't realize that adult adopteees existed." He paused. "I mean, obviously, they exist. I've done many health exams and those sort of things for adoption applications for adoptive parents--obviously there are adoptees. Obviously adoptees don't just disappear when they become adults. I guess it never occurred to me that adoption would still be relevant to adults."
My reaction to his statement was one of fondness. At least he was nice about it. A lot of times people scrunch their faces and say things like, "you're 27 years old and you still identify with being adopted?" Why? Because "adopted" is synonymous with "child" and I am no longer a child.
Amanda H.L. Transue-Woolston, MSS, LSW is a social worker, author, and speaker serving the adoption community through individual and family clinical work, groups, writing and teaching, and policy advocacy. She has participated in more than a dozen publishing projects, including authoring, The Declassified Adoptee: Essays of an Adoption Activist. Amanda is the founder of Lost Daughters, a collaborative writing project featuring more than 30 adopted women, and the founder of Pennsylvania Adoptee Rights, a grassroots policy advocacy movement. Amanda was featured as an activist by Yahoo!Voices in 2009, and is listed in Adoptive Families Magazine’s Top 20 Adoption Blogs.surrounding systems.
Saturday, July 28, 2012
Tags: Access Legislation, Adoptee Rights, Adoption, adoption discourse, adoption reform, Adult Adoptee, CCAI, Congress, Kevin Ost-Vollmers
Friday, July 20, 2012
On the 27th, I will be headed to Washington D.C. for the privilege of meeting with some legendary adult adoptees and the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute. We plan to bring some adoptee issues to the attention of Congressional staff, and establish an on-going dialogue for future meetings.
Of course, I can't go to this meeting armed without my papers, facts, statistics and all other necessary tools to share good information about Adoptee Rights. I also indulged myself a little bit......
Thursday, July 19, 2012
Guest Post by, Laura Dennis
Even before I was completely sewn back together, I held my newborn. In those very first moments of hormones and love and crying baby, I knew with my entire being that I could not, would not, ever give her up. How could anyone give up such a precious, perfect little girl? How very devastated would I be if I had to give away this little person who I'd just made, who was mine, all mine.
I tried to push those terrifying thoughts out of my head. Today was a day for joy, after all. But that act of giving away someone whom you'd carried with you for nine months, who was a part of you right down to a cellular level, it was mystifying and horrifying.
Tags: Adopted Reality, Adoption, child birth, Guest Blogger, Laura Dennis, narrative, Reunion, short story, Story Telling
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
|Jack thinks he helped me|
write this blog post.
If you're not a blogger, have you ever wondered what goes into the making of a blog post? For the first time, I share my secrets. Do you blog? Share your secrets with us too.
Friday, July 13, 2012
I am apologizing in advance because this blog entry has scarcely anything to do with its title. I was reading through my last post where I noted that my adoptive surname appears oddly similar to an Old French word that means "to transfer" or "to make a copy." When reading this, I couldn't help but comment to myself that the etymology of the name seemed prophetic. I'm adopted and my last name means "to transfer" (actually, the OED says "to be transferred")--I mean, come on. Furthermore, who better for a last name that means "to copy" to go to than someone who grew up to gripe about the incorrect copy made of her birth certificate? I asked myself if it could be prophetic. I decided the answer is "no." The title of the post gets to stay though, because it is awesome.
Friday, July 6, 2012
|Photo credit: worradmu|
The pieces that make up the ”Adoptees as Parents” anthology come from the minds of adult adoptees with a variety of impressive backgrounds. Several of the authors have a multi-dimensional view of adoption through numerous adoption connections, whether by having adopted siblings or adopted children, working professionally with the adoption community, or researching and writing about adoption. Themes that emerge from these combined essays include issues of race, gender, sexual orientation, domestic and international adoption, foster care, identity, attachment, belonging, trauma, addiction, genetic inheritance, and family systems–to name just a few.....read the rest at Land of Gazillion Adoptees
Tags: Adult Adoptee, Land of Gazillion Adoptees, parenting, Quote From What I'm Reading Wednesday, Research on Adult Adoptees